Do Mother’s Day More Than Once a Year!

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It was obvious that 2020 Mother’s Day was going to be different. We were ordered, no gatherings of any kind. So that meant our annual Mother’s Day dinner was a not possible this year. This is my favorite family dinner because all the men and children have to make and clean up the whole family dinner. All the mothers get to relax for once.

My cousin had posted on Facebook this fun yet honest reminder for Dads. I liked it right away but then I realized the truth of my reality…there was no Dad in my house and no teachers or older adults to help my children remember or plan something special for me. I love my kids but they’re are pretty tired of their Mommy already and none of them look at a calendar. I’m also not the type to keep reminding them, “Don’t forget, Mother’s Day is coming!”

I realized that my Mother’s Day could go two ways. I could wallow in misery that nobody cares how much I do for them everyday. OR I could make Mother’s Day special on my own. I chose to make it special. This is how my Mother’s Day went.

When I made the decision to make my Mother’s Day a special one, I knew the first thing I had to do was to take the focus off of myself. I wanted to do something for as many wonderful mothers as I could. With very limited fundings, my options were very few.

So I started my day by deciding to send a text or Facebook messages to at least 100 mothers telling them Happy Mother’s Day. My goal was to send them a message letting them know I am thinking of them and what a wonderful mother they are, before they messaged me! There was no way I could send a 100 personal messages at one sitting so this would have to be in spurts throughout the day.

The next thing I decided to do for Mother’s Day was to pamper and take care of myself for once!

The first thing I wanted was breakfast in bed. So I made myself a fried egg on rice, side of kimchee, and fruit smoothie with Amare supplements. Then I got nice and comfortable on my bed. Oh! I did NOT forget to lock the door so no one could bother me. (There was Costco muffins and bananas for my kids if they got hungry.)

While eating, I decided I wanted to watch something uplifting to remind me how important my roll is as a mother. I watched a few things but this one hit my heart and brought tears to my eyes. This is why I do what I do as a mother. After this short video, I was able to continue my day with a joyful hear..

After breakfast, I decided I would take a shower. A bath would have been amazing but our current home doesn’t have any tubs. A shower may seem like a simple daily thing but as a single mom of a lot of children, especially a bunch of little ones, a shower is a luxury. I make sure my kids get their regular bathes but I’m usually busy all the way up till I pass out. When I wake up, its GO time and my crazy day starts all over again. Most times, I honestly don’t remember the last time I took a shower. So today, I got to shower, wash my hair, and even shave!

I also decided I deserved to do a facial mask. I seriously do not remember the last time I did something special for my face. I don’t even remember where I got that bottle of mask from! Praying it was still ok to use, I put on the mask. Looking quite different from my normal self, my children were entertained by their Mommy’s new look. So I decide to have a little fun and wake up my sleeping 15-year-old. She’s usually really grumpy in the morning but when she finally saw my face she couldn’t help but smile. The best part was that she told me I looked beautiful. Hearing you look beautiful is something you WANT to hear on Mother’s Day!

My parents came over for a bit to have sacrament and a short “church” meeting which was really lovely then it was lunch time. I ate a yummy frozen noodles with shrimp dumplings, the kids made their own lunch.

I then drove to Makaha (about an hour drive) to pick up the babies from visiting family and back home (another hour) before my 3pm Queen Bee session. I was able to get a short nap with my 3yr old because driving makes me tired.

When I woke up it was already time to prep dinner! I was super excited for dinner because I found a easy delicious looking microwavable meal at Costco. So I orchestrated my dinner (pasta and salad with tomato, cucumber, and bell peppers). Told the big kids to get to work on dinner and I left to continue to pamper myself.

While the kids were prepping dinner, I took the time to epilade my legs. I have a cheap epilade from Wish but the ones pictured below from Amazon are way better! The last one I had that I lost in a hotel was more like these.

While doing my legs, my 13 daughter came in and asked, “Mommy why is your hair so long!?” I answered, ” Because Mommy doesn’t take time to take care of myself and today I am.” I realized at that moment, I need to be a better example to my children about taking care of myself.

I also decided that I should clean up my eyebrows. The last time I got my eyebrows threaded was in California, eight months ago! My eyebrows had been ignored long enough! I’m far from a professional job but I think it looks a little better.

Dinner was finally ready! Just as we were about to eat, I realized my 2yr old has a stinky diaper. The kids got started on their salads. When I got back to the table I was surprised that my kids actually waited for me to come back to the dinner table before diving into the main course! I was very grateful for the thoughtfulness to wait for me. Like always we have lively silly conversations with lots of laughter. We all thought the pasta was delicious. For our family of eight we heated up two packages of pasta meal.

After dinner the kids cleaned up. I got the babies to bed and then did my toe nails. The last time I got my feed and toes painted and pampered was also in California, eight months ago! Yes, there is nail polish on my skin and it doesn’t look very pretty right now. The polish on the skin will peal off leaving it looking so pretty in the end! I think I’ll also add a flower design tomorrow.

My Mother’s Day turned out to be a very lovely day! It was good for me to focus on myself for once. Even though my pampering was not perfect, I finally took the time to do ME which I badly needed.

The best part of my day was messaging as many women as I know, Happy Mother’s Day. I almost made my 100 messages! Even though I wasn’t able to reach my goal, it was a very enjoyable experience for me to think about how many wonderful mothers I know and then recognizing them in a small way. All mothers do not get enough recognition for the amazing mothers that they are. There are still so many mothers that I wasn’t able to message yet!

I think I need to do my kind of Mother’s Day several times a year. We really CAN do Mother’s Day more than once a year!

• Tell as many mothers as possible, how great they are and what an amazing job they are doing.
• Pamper yourself because you deserve it.

I’m so grateful I choose to make my 2020 Mother’s Day special for me. What did you do for Mother’s Day this year?